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Sexual Fraud: Should It Be Illegal To Lie On Your Tinder Profile?

By Marley DeRosia

If you lie on your Tinder profile, you might be in for a nasty shock — professor Irina D. Manta has announced a call for legal action against lying in your online dating profile.

It’s common for individuals to lie about their height or weight. In fact, nearly 80% of people will tell lies on their dating profile, with most of these claims being innocuous white lies.

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But more insidious profiles can result in serious damage to another person. Sexual fraud has become a serious transgression in the world of online dating but there is very little to stop this from happening in the first place.

Professor Irina D. Manta hopes to change this.

In her article published by The Washington Post, she highlights more serious circumstances where people were put at risk because of lies orchestrated by another user. One woman even fell in love with a businessman only to discover he was married. Worse yet? He was doing this to countless other women with the help of online dating.

It’s no wonder nearly 50% of marriages will end in divorce throughout the United States.

“For a woman in her late 30s or early 40s who wants to marry and have children, the opportunity cost of a fraudulent relationship can add another dimension to the pain in the form of diminished fertility,” Manta writes.

And the pervasion of lying doesn’t stop there. Countless fake accounts and bots work to trick users into paying exorbitant fees for businesses while others work under a different agenda. Twitter alone has removed or banned 70 million bot accounts since May of 2018.

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One 69-year-old man hopes to elude lying on his profile through legal means, however. The aging Dutch senior wants to change his age to get more matches online and took it to court to alter his birthdate.

Born in 1949, Emile Ratelband wants to change his birth year to 1969. This would allow him to claim he is 20 years younger than his actual, measurable, biological age.

“If I put on Tinder that I am 69, I will not get a response…[As] 49, with that face of mine, then I’m rammed,” Ratelband said.

Of course, this act of lying could have serious repercussions on women hoping to meet a younger man. Whether due to issues in fertility, longevity, or lifestyle, there are countless reasons why women would not want to date someone who is 20 years older than they claim.

As Manta so succinctly states in her Washington Post article, “‘I won’t be able to get laid as easily’ is a poor argument for lying in the sexual setting. That line of thinking reflects an often misogynistic attitude of entitlement to sex that, in its more extreme forms, has been used to justify rape and has been embraced recently by the “involuntary celibacy,” or incel, movement.”

The scope of sexual fraud law may include online dating sooner than you think.

The First Reports Of Facebook Dating Are In: Is It Worth It?

Facebook Dating has only been released in a select number of countries, but already we’re learning about the overall user experience. Now that the beta of Facebook’s dating app has hit Canada, the first Canadian users have begun to weigh in.

The verdict? It’s on par with other online dating apps, but a few bugs in the system make it difficult to use.

Journalist Ebony-Renee Baker details her interaction with the app in a recent Vice article. In true Vice fashion, she holds nothing back. She paints a vivid picture of lovelorn Millennials love-hate relationship with dating apps. Baker says Facebook Dating needs to fix the bugs to make it more usable, which is typical when tech companies are testing a new app.

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“When I select my distance preference to be within 40 km, age range from 26 to 35, and height within a solid 5’11 to 7 … feet tall, half of my suggested matches are basically the opposite of that. Instead, I’m getting dudes like 44-year-old Stephane from small-town Ontario, and wee Peter at 5’5″ even though I asked for them not to be there — no offence, guys,” Baker reports.

On top of that, Facebook Dating forces the user to send messages immediately to those you have tapped “interested” in. This means that you don’t match with someone to begin talking to them — as soon as you hit “interested,” a user can message whomever they want.

While this might open the door for people you may not have considered, this is inherently different from the match-to-talk options already proffered by more popular dating apps.

Countless people use online dating to find matches in real life. In fact, over one-third of married couples in the U.S. met through a dating site or app. Among those who identify as LGBTQ+ couples, almost 70% of them met online.

But that doesn’t mean those couples had to filter through plenty of bad dates, bot accounts, and creepy messages to get there.

Despite Ebony’s lackluster opinion on Facebook Dating, she did manage to go on one date with a man who lived down the street from her. Of course, it didn’t work out, but at least he wasn’t one of the 70 million bots Twitter has gotten rid of this year.

This is a stark contrast to the way couples met in the 1990s. In fact, more than 40% of couples met their partner through friends, followed by 20% of people who met in bars. But then again, the average cost of a honeymoon wasn’t more than $4,000 either.

It’s apparent that online dating isn’t going anywhere. But the final judgment on Facebook Dating? It seems like it’s too soon to count it out just yet.

Once the app fixes its bugs and spreads to more countries, the best thing we can do is try it for ourselves and form our own opinions. And write about it for the benefit of the rest of the world.

Asking A Guy For His Number Is Easier Than Ever! Here’s How…

Are you terrified of asking a guy for his number? Thanks to dating app Lulu, asking a guy for his number is easier than ever. Approach the guy of your choice with a simple “Hello, my name is…” After a bit of small talk, mention to him that he looks familiar, but you can’t figure out why… Then, after pretending to rack your brain, you’ll have an “Aha! Moment” that you must have seen his picture on Lulu. As you’re explaining what Lulu is, begin searching for him on the app. If you discover that he’s not on Lulu, ask if he would like to be, and then assure him that he needs to be on Lulu. In order to add him to the app, not only will you need to add his number to your contacts, you’ll also need to take his picture. We suggest using these 4 easy lines…
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1. “Hmm… I’m not finding you on here, but I could add you right now.”
When he agrees, your next line will be…

2. “I think I need to get your number before I can add you.” Right there he will immediately offer it up and the deal will be sealed.

3. As an added bonus you get to spend the next few minutes filling out his review with him. Since  you’ve just met, say something like…
 “Okay, now it’s time to for your review, can you help me out?”

4. Finally, when you’ve finished the review, cracked a few jokes and exchanged a few hand grazes you can say…
“Now, the last thing I need to add is your picture, smile!”

Now, the rest is up to you my friend. Have fun and please share your results with hashtag #GotHisDigitsOnLulu