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Indulgent Valentine’s Day Cocktails Regardless Of Relationship Status

If you picked 10 random people from your local coffee shop and asked them how they felt about Valentine’s Day, you’d probably get 10 different answers. Some people view the love-themed holiday as a capitalistic cash cow, some spend months looking forward to a special day with their loved one. While others resent those doe-eyed couples for reminding them of their singledom.

No matter your connection, Valentine’s Day is the perfect opportunity to celebrate a loving relationship with anyone in your life. With half of the American population identifying as single and a quarter of them planning on doing something for Valentine’s Day, this holiday is no longer reserved for those with a romantic partner.

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For single women especially, the concept of “Galentine’s Day” has given this time of year an entirely new meaning. Coined by Leslie Knope on the sitcom Parks and Recreation, Galentine’s Day is held on February 13 and focuses on celebrating friendships between women. People around the world have latched on to this alternate version of the heart-filled holiday. It gives anyone with any type of relationship status the chance to get in on the worldwide celebration of love.

Champagne Glasses and Bottles

Whether you’re planning on inviting your closest gal pals over for a night of drinking and debauchery or planning a romantic dinner for two, these Valentine’s Day cocktails are sure to make even the most cynical feel the love.

  • Figgy Sparkler
    Along with chocolate, flowers, and giant teddy bears, champagne is a key ingredient for a classic Valentine’s Day celebration. Luckily, it is also a key ingredient in the figgy sparkler. This unique drink pairs vodka and Prosecco with figs and cranberries for a distinctly fruity palette. If you want to amp up the fig’s flavor even further, infuse your vodka with the dark fruit.
  • Love Potion #9
    This dessert-like drink is perfect for anyone with a sweet tooth. The recipe even calls for vanilla ice cream, the most popular flavor in a survey of International Ice Cream Association member companies. Combine the well-loved ice cream with chocolate liqueur with an option of clear, vanilla, or strawberry vodka to get this boozy smoothie. Top it off with a strawberry, and you’ll have Valentine’s Day in a glass.
  • Kir and Kir Royale
    A wine cocktail for all time, the Kir is a simple addition to any celebration of love, romantic or platonic. The star of the drink is blackcurrant, a lesser-known aphrodisiac for those who want to romance their partner. All you need to do is pour creme de cassis in a glass and top with white wine. If you’re among the 32% of people who are worried about the look of their teeth, choose a white wine with low sugar content and maintain the integrity of your pearly whites.
  • Besame
    Spanish for “kiss me,” this drink will have anyone dreaming of a sunny summer day spent swimming, the fourth most popular sports activity in the country. As you think of warmer days in blue waters, you’ll taste Agavero, the centerpiece of the Besame. This tequila-based liqueur is flavored with the essence of the Damiana flower. Mix it with passion fruit juice and Chambord, and then pour the cocktail over muddled raspberries and lime to concoct this refreshingly fruity drink.

Valentine’s Day isn’t about how much money you spend on your special someone, but the experiences you share together. Whether you join the masses at the movie theatre, go on one of the 27% of trips that are taken solely to attend an organized sporting event, or serve up these uniquely themed cocktails, you’re sure to make memories that will last a lifetime. Or at least until next Valentine’s Day.

Dating Downloads Set To Go Into Overdrive On January 6

Is one of your New Year’s resolutions to find love? You might want to pull out your smartphone and re-download your favorite dating app again. According to new reports, January 6 is expected to be the busiest day for online dating of the year.

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The popular dating site Match.com reports that the busiest day for online dating is the first Sunday following the new year. This means that fateful day rests on January 6 and most first dates will occur the following Friday. Match.com even dubbed that special day of the week, “First Date Friday, ” which is set to occur on January 11.

But Match isn’t the only dating site to experience a surge in swiping. Up-and-coming dating app Hinge reported that singles used the app 22.5% more on the first Sunday following the new year.

Tinder, the undisputed leader of the dating app pack, saw 44 million matches made in a single Sunday. With so many users picking up online dating on that first Sunday, the day has become a holiday in its own right. It’s been dubbed “Dating Sunday.”

Woman using dating app and swiping user photos

But why January 6?

Many theorize that users hope to find love in the new year, making January a particularly popular month for dating apps across the country. But that first Sunday is key. People are bored after the hustle and bustle of Christmas and eager for more excitement. For others, this Sunday following the holidays may be the first time they’ve had downtime to use a dating app in the new year.

Match found that 53% of singles on their site think of the new year as a clean slate; for those looking for love in 2019, dating at the beginning of the new year is a fresh start.

“January is all about resolutions and we always see people kickstarting their dating after a reflection phase where they try to figure out what they want from life in the new year and what they are going to do differently,” claims Bumble’s Danielle Chadha.

“We see a lot a lot of new registrations and a lot of profiles being updated and we encourage our users just to be straightforward in their bios and profiles about what they want.”

So, how can you craft the perfect profile for Dating Sunday?

Here are some tips to help get you to First Date Friday.

Put your best face forward

This means it’s time to ditch the sunglasses. Potential matches want to see your beautiful smile and pearly whites. It’s estimated that 96% of people believe that a healthy, attractive smile makes someone more appealing to a potential partner.

Actually fill out your bio

So many singles just put their social media information on their profile and hope for the best. Unfortunately, this won’t get you potential matches. You want to fill out your bio with information that can start a conversation. Include your likes and interests with a funny quote or an interesting one-liner.

Ditch the bad pickup lines

We’ve heard them all before. It’s time to come up with unique first lines if you want to get responses from potential dates. For those who are stuck, Tinder came out with a few alternatives on their Swipe Life blog to get you started.

For example, they list “Best smile on Tinder. You must use Crest, lol” as a bad first liner. While 99.7% of people view a healthy smile as socially important, this won’t get you a date.

Tinder suggests you use this instead: “OK, nice smile, but how’s your frown?”

If you’re not into dating apps right now, don’t stress. There are other busy times where you might be more apt to download Tinder or another dating app.

After all, time is relative and there’s no limit on when you’ll find love. The French once tried to institute a 10-hour clock, instead of the regular 24 hours. If you’re struggling on a dating app, at least you didn’t fail as badly as they did following the French Revolution.

And if you’re one of the many people swiping on January 6, good luck this Sunday!

Sexual Fraud: Should It Be Illegal To Lie On Your Tinder Profile?

By Marley DeRosia

If you lie on your Tinder profile, you might be in for a nasty shock — professor Irina D. Manta has announced a call for legal action against lying in your online dating profile.

It’s common for individuals to lie about their height or weight. In fact, nearly 80% of people will tell lies on their dating profile, with most of these claims being innocuous white lies.

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But more insidious profiles can result in serious damage to another person. Sexual fraud has become a serious transgression in the world of online dating but there is very little to stop this from happening in the first place.

Professor Irina D. Manta hopes to change this.

In her article published by The Washington Post, she highlights more serious circumstances where people were put at risk because of lies orchestrated by another user. One woman even fell in love with a businessman only to discover he was married. Worse yet? He was doing this to countless other women with the help of online dating.

It’s no wonder nearly 50% of marriages will end in divorce throughout the United States.

“For a woman in her late 30s or early 40s who wants to marry and have children, the opportunity cost of a fraudulent relationship can add another dimension to the pain in the form of diminished fertility,” Manta writes.

And the pervasion of lying doesn’t stop there. Countless fake accounts and bots work to trick users into paying exorbitant fees for businesses while others work under a different agenda. Twitter alone has removed or banned 70 million bot accounts since May of 2018.

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One 69-year-old man hopes to elude lying on his profile through legal means, however. The aging Dutch senior wants to change his age to get more matches online and took it to court to alter his birthdate.

Born in 1949, Emile Ratelband wants to change his birth year to 1969. This would allow him to claim he is 20 years younger than his actual, measurable, biological age.

“If I put on Tinder that I am 69, I will not get a response…[As] 49, with that face of mine, then I’m rammed,” Ratelband said.

Of course, this act of lying could have serious repercussions on women hoping to meet a younger man. Whether due to issues in fertility, longevity, or lifestyle, there are countless reasons why women would not want to date someone who is 20 years older than they claim.

As Manta so succinctly states in her Washington Post article, “‘I won’t be able to get laid as easily’ is a poor argument for lying in the sexual setting. That line of thinking reflects an often misogynistic attitude of entitlement to sex that, in its more extreme forms, has been used to justify rape and has been embraced recently by the “involuntary celibacy,” or incel, movement.”

The scope of sexual fraud law may include online dating sooner than you think.

The First Reports Of Facebook Dating Are In: Is It Worth It?

Facebook Dating has only been released in a select number of countries, but already we’re learning about the overall user experience. Now that the beta of Facebook’s dating app has hit Canada, the first Canadian users have begun to weigh in.

The verdict? It’s on par with other online dating apps, but a few bugs in the system make it difficult to use.

Journalist Ebony-Renee Baker details her interaction with the app in a recent Vice article. In true Vice fashion, she holds nothing back. She paints a vivid picture of lovelorn Millennials love-hate relationship with dating apps. Baker says Facebook Dating needs to fix the bugs to make it more usable, which is typical when tech companies are testing a new app.

Woman using dating app and swiping user photos

“When I select my distance preference to be within 40 km, age range from 26 to 35, and height within a solid 5’11 to 7 … feet tall, half of my suggested matches are basically the opposite of that. Instead, I’m getting dudes like 44-year-old Stephane from small-town Ontario, and wee Peter at 5’5″ even though I asked for them not to be there — no offence, guys,” Baker reports.

On top of that, Facebook Dating forces the user to send messages immediately to those you have tapped “interested” in. This means that you don’t match with someone to begin talking to them — as soon as you hit “interested,” a user can message whomever they want.

While this might open the door for people you may not have considered, this is inherently different from the match-to-talk options already proffered by more popular dating apps.

Countless people use online dating to find matches in real life. In fact, over one-third of married couples in the U.S. met through a dating site or app. Among those who identify as LGBTQ+ couples, almost 70% of them met online.

But that doesn’t mean those couples had to filter through plenty of bad dates, bot accounts, and creepy messages to get there.

Despite Ebony’s lackluster opinion on Facebook Dating, she did manage to go on one date with a man who lived down the street from her. Of course, it didn’t work out, but at least he wasn’t one of the 70 million bots Twitter has gotten rid of this year.

This is a stark contrast to the way couples met in the 1990s. In fact, more than 40% of couples met their partner through friends, followed by 20% of people who met in bars. But then again, the average cost of a honeymoon wasn’t more than $4,000 either.

It’s apparent that online dating isn’t going anywhere. But the final judgment on Facebook Dating? It seems like it’s too soon to count it out just yet.

Once the app fixes its bugs and spreads to more countries, the best thing we can do is try it for ourselves and form our own opinions. And write about it for the benefit of the rest of the world.