Wedding Stress

Wedding Stress: How to Say ‘I Don’t’ to Wedding Planning Stress

Despite the fact that many Americans are waiting longer to get married than they used to, weddings are still very much considered to be a rite of passage for countless couples. That said, this important and exciting life event is also one of the most stressful. In fact, a recent Zola study found that 96% of participants responded that planning a wedding is stressful, with 71% agreeing that planning a wedding is more stressful than other major life events, like buying a house or finding a job. In addition, 86% of respondents suffered from at least three wedding stress-related symptoms — including skin breakouts, headaches, insomnia, hair loss, and loss of sex drive — as a result of wedding planning.

Wedding Stress

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It’s easy to see why. The wedding industry brought in a staggering $72 billion in revenue during 2016, but many young people can scarcely pay for the ceremony due to crippling student loan debts, high costs of living, and unaffordable housing. That, coupled with the pressure to make one’s wedding perfectly Instagrammable and wholly unique for guests, is enough to make planning this special day seem like an insurmountable task.

Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to relieve some stress throughout the process. While there’s no such thing as a completely stress-free wedding, you’ll reduce the likelihood of an emotional breakdown and may even be able to enjoy your engagement if you follow these tips.

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Secure Some Planning Help

Even if you’re incredibly crafty or have a take-charge attitude, the reality is that no one should (or can) do it alone. Those who try may end up suffering the consequences, which can translate to mental or physical health issues, in some cases. For example, more than 37 million people suffer from migraines nationwide — and since migraines are often exacerbated by the stress (e.g., hormonal fluctuations), your wedding might end up being a huge (and literal) headache if you don’t have help. Although hiring a wedding planner may seem like an unnecessary expense, having someone to handle the inevitable hiccups and coordinate all the moving parts can be absolutely priceless for many couples. If it’s simply not realistic for your budgetary constraints, ask trustworthy friends and family to lend a hand when possible. Whatever you do, remember that the big day doesn’t have to rest solely on your shoulders.

Don’t Fall Into the Comparison Trap

It’s easy to work yourself up into a tizzy when you’re constantly feeling like your wedding won’t be good enough. And given our constant involvement on social media, it’s no wonder we’re comparing our lives to others. You may need to consciously remind yourself to stop scrolling on Instagram or browsing through Pinterest and instead focus on what’s really important: the celebration of you and your partner. If you’re worried about whether you’ll receive a lot of likes on a wedding-related post or that your friends will compare your nuptials to that of someone else in your circle, you’re not really thinking about what matters. Those who have trouble shaking themselves out of the comparison cycle should make an effort to unfollow wedding-related accounts, limit screen time, or discourage wedding talk outside of specific timeframes to keep their emotional well-being in check.

Prioritize Your Self-Care Routine

The term “self-care” is often thrown around so much that it’s lost all meaning, but it really is important for betrothed couples in the midst of planning their wedding. Ultimately, self-care can refer to anything that puts your own needs first and feels restorative. For some, that might mean getting regular spa treatments; not only do 92% of people surveyed feel that massage can be effective in reducing pain, but this practice can also have profound effects on one’s mental state. Self-care could also include getting enough sleep, following a nutritious diet, or working out regularly (as only one in three adults receives the recommended amount of physical activity each week). Alternatively, self-care might involve meditation, therapy appointments, house cleaning sessions, time spent outdoors, setting boundaries, abstaining from alcohol use, prioritizing social engagements, or spending quality time with your fiancee.

Only you can define what self-care really means, but whatever it is to you, it’s essential that you make time for it in your schedule. Remember that you’ll be better equipped to handle the challenges of planning a wedding if you tend to your needs consistently. Think of it as preventative maintenance, rather than emergency repair.

Try Out Some CBD Oil

CBD is being touted as a cure-all for virtually everything, from anxiety to chronic pain. For brides and grooms suffering from wedding planning stress, CBD oil might be a viable way to find some relief without engaging in potentially harmful habits. Because CBD doesn’t typically include THC (the part of cannabis known for having psychoactive properties), there’s no risk of dependence or of getting high at all. CBD oil, or even CBD gummies, can be used to reduce pain, ease stress, and restore balance to essential bodily functions such as appetite, sleep, digestion, and mood.

Although more research needs to be done on its benefits (and consumers need to do their homework to make sure they’re buying a high-quality product), there is a lot of anecdotal evidence to support these claims. A recent survey even found that 42% of CBD users said they stopped using traditional medications (including Tylenol or prescription drugs like Vicodin) in favor of CBD, with 80% of participants saying they’ve found CBD products to be “very” or “extremely” effective. If you’ve been curious about CBD and are seeking a more natural way to reduce your wedding planning stress, it’s possible that this could become a healthy part of your routine.

Consider Eloping Instead

Every weekend, an average of 44,230 weddings take place. But if the cost of a wedding or the anxiety associated with the guest list is proving to be too much for you and your beloved, there might be another option that will eliminate planning stress for good. Elopements are becoming more popular as couples try to keep expenses low and focus more on their own special and intimate celebrations. If you’d rather spend money on traveling than a big wedding, hate having all eyes on you, or are feeling pressured to make decisions that don’t align with your vision of your wedding day, you and your soon-to-be spouse may want to elope instead. That way, you can say your vows in relative solitude wherever you wish (whether it be the top of the mountain or city hall) and have total control over every element.

If your family and friends want to celebrate with a big party after the fact, that’s always a possibility (and won’t require you to rent out a big event venue or spend several thousand dollars). When money or family issues seem to be the source of your wedding stress, an elopement might be the right move.

Whatever your wedding style, budgetary constraints, or personal challenges, there are ways to reduce your stress throughout the planning process. By keeping these tips in mind, you may be able to look forward to your wedding and enjoy putting everything together, rather than experiencing an impending sense of doom every time you sit down to go over the guest list.

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Final Fling Before The Ring: 3 Fun Summer Bachelorette Party Ideas

If you have a friend who is getting married in the near future, you may soon find yourself helping to plan an awesome bachelorette party for them. And the great thing about bachelorette parties is that they can be planned and customized to fit the style of the lovely bride-to-be. Whether you want to hit some of the 104 Las Vegas casinos or have a laid-back weekend at home, there are so many options. So if you’re looking for some fun and unique summer bachelorette party ideas, keep reading for 3 fun summer bachelorette party ideas.

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Go on a Wine Tour

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Many bachelorette parties feature some level of drinking. But if you go to the bars, you have to worry about getting everyone home safely. And with every state having some form of drinking and driving law like Michigan’s “Zero Tolerance” OWI offense, you could be risking getting in legal trouble, too. When you schedule a wine tour, you can choose transportation, like a fun limo or party bus, so everyone can have fun and be safe. Consider becoming one of the one billion mobile VoIP users and utilize the Internet to easily book transportation. And another great thing about wine tours is that that can be done during the day if you have activities planned for the evening. Get the group together with some matching shirts, party music, and have fun drinking some wine.

Have a Spa Day

Fun Summer Bachelorette Party Ideas

If your soon-to-be-bride is more of a laid-back kind of gal, then a spa day could be the perfect bachelorette party idea. You can either book appointments for the whole group at a local spa, like Oasis Day Spa or even host your own spa day and your house. Make sure to book all of the important appointments, like facials, massages, and mani-pedis. This can be a great way to simply enjoy each other’s company and relax before the big day — a relaxing spa day is a good idea especially if the bachelorette party is planned close to the wedding day. You can even combine ideas and have a rejuvenating spa day before heading out to party at night.

Host a Pool Party

The James Hotel Rooftop Pool

If you or one of the other bachelorette party attendees has a pool, then you have the perfect party location. With most American homes doubling in size since the 50s, that 2,500 square foot average is begging to host parties indoors and out. Who said you couldn’t stay home for your bachelorette party. Summer is the perfect time for pool parties and a bachelorette pool party can be particularly fun. Invest in some wedding-themed pool floats, like rings and champagne glasses, make tropical cocktails, and maybe even coordinate matching color swimsuits. Your bride-to-be is sure to love a fun day of floating the pool, listening to her favorite tunes, and eating and drinking yummy treats. But don’t forget to load up on the sunscreen to avoid everyone being super sunburnt come wedding day.

Summer is the perfect time for bachelorette parties because there is just so much to do. So keep these ideas in mind to help you plan the perfect ‘last fling before the ring’.

Accessories Council Bridal Press Preview

There is no doubt that being a bride and planning a wedding is a stressful time, but there are companies that offer both amazing and wonderfully special products and services that are sure to make your wedding day a beautiful and memorable one. When it comes to all things accessories, you should look no further than the Accessories Council so when they, along with Brides Magazine EIC, Millie Martini Bratten, came together to showcase their favorite bridal accessories and other bridal essentials, bride or not, attendance was necessary.

Held at the beautiful 91 Horatio Event Space which was beautifully designed by The Upper Crust Weddings, a group of wedding experts that provide the ultimate, all-inclusive wedding planning experience including catering, floral design, Mixologist (cocktails) like John McCarthy, lighting, entertainment and photography, we, along with fellow media, got the inside look on that latest hot trends in wedding accessories, decor, beauty, cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. Some of the stunning jewelry we saw included stunning timepieces from Bulova and Sprout Watches, ornate pieces from Roman Bride, and diamond hoops and engagement rings from Ritani.


Bulova highlighted a stainless steel watch with gold finish, 24 diamonds individually hand-set on case and a white mother-of-pearl dial ($475.00); Eco-friendly Sprout showcased their new white corn resin case Watches with pink sparkly Swarovski Crystals ($75.00); Roman Bride highlighted their Pearl & Crystal Headband ($30.00), Crystal Bracelet & Earrings ($28.00 – $60.00), Infinity and Bow Necklaces ($20.00); high-end jewelry brand, Ritani highlighted their Diamond Hoop Earrings ($1,350.00) in 18k White Gold – all which would make perfect accessories on the big day.

Of course looking beautiful on your wedding day is more than just because of your dress. A beautifully made up face is essential to looking your best. That is where Makeup Artist, Joseph Anthony Carrillo ($200.00+) comes in. With his experience bringing out the inner beauty in every face he touches for designer runway shows, campaigns, and editorials for some of the most prestigious print publications, his classic beauty aesthetic is sure to make any bride stunning.

Marchesa will dazzles brides with their stunning Envelope Shoulder Bag ($3,695 at which features pearl and leather cut embroidery, crystal quartz lock and nickel hardware while the Lena Erziak Classic Evening Clutch ($3,595 646-484-5892), encrusted in Swarovski crystals and dosed in 24 k-gold plating on hardware make the perfect after wedding bag.

Not all bridal fashion includes dresses. Boy Meets Girl featured their Classic Coco Hoodie ($59.00 – $69.00), personalized Hoodies that say “Bride/Groom” and make great gifts for the happy couple. When you order one of the pre-made “bride/groom” personalized hoodies online you’ll receive a FREE pair of Boy Meets Girl® slippers with your order. Speaking of slippers, the Jack Rogers Palm Beach Navajo Flat ($110.00) are great for brides getting married on the beach or to wear after the wedding and reception to give your feet a break from heels.

If you’re a wedding guest and want to commemorate the bride and groom’s happy day, try the following gifts. Tru Blooms Chicago Fragrance ($38.00 – $65.00) is a bright floral perfume made of elegant sheer rose, traditional lavender and sensuous violet that is limited edition to the year of the wedding. It’s a wonderful way to celebrate the happy couple.

Though it may not seem like it, all weddings are not just about the bride. Grooms will appreciate (and brides will love) the ManuelRacim Made-to-Measure Dress Shirts ($225.00), dress shirts that are made-to-measure to any groom’s exact measurements and can be further personalized with a monogram of the couple’s initials and wedding date, commemorating the big day and ensuring the groom will never forget his wedding anniversary.

NIVEA Wedding Season Skincare Giveaway!

One of my guilty pleasures is watching David Tutera’s My Fair Wedding and this show has been playing more often, no surprise since it is the beginning of wedding season. And while they show all the wonderful things Mr. Tutera does for the brides-to-be, we never see what the brides (and grooms) do to pamper themselves in preparation for their big day. That got me thinking on ways to pamper your skin and get it ready for your wedding without breaking your already challenged budget (since the entire budget goes to the actual wedding). One money saving tip is for you and your hubby-to-be to enjoy spa at home experiences to leave both you with soft, nourished, healthy, glowing and moisturized skin.

NIVEA has some great, budget-friendly skincare products that get your skin effectively (and affordably) beautiful. The perfect combination of his/her products for a skin care Bridal Boot Camp to make your wedding day skin ready for your “I do’s. They even have a daily giveaway –  Million Moments of Touch date night giveaways –!/NIVEAusa/app_168749696562045

For women:

New! NIVEA Kiss of Vitamin Swirl Lip – Its hydrating formula is enriched with Acai Berry and Wild Apple extracts, both rich in vitamins and antioxidants, to help maintain healthy looking, kissable lips.

New! NIVEA Touch of Renewal Lathering Body Scrub –with HYDRA IQ technology, this product delivers a unique balance of exfoliation and a rich cleansing, moisturizing lather.

New! NIVEA Extended Moisture Lotion – Keep your skin soft with this fast-absorbing lotion featuring HYDRA IQ technology and Provitamin B5. Extended Moisture Lotion provides up to 48 hours of relief to provide long lasting moisture in preparation for the wedding day.

For men:

New! NIVEA for Men 3-in-1 Relax Body Wash – A refreshing yet relaxing shower experience for a groom or groomsman to enjoy before all the excitement. This body wash with massaging micro-particles, a rich lather and relaxing scent, rinses off easily, to leave skin feeling clean, comfortable and healthy.

NEW! NIVEA for Men Maximum Hydration Moisturizer with HYDRA IQ and sea minerals – A technologically-advanced, intensive, moisturizer for Dry to Very Dry skin that provides more than 24 hours of moisture to the skin and leaves skin feeling great.

NIVEA sent me the above products to try and though I am not a bride or bridesmaid (this year), I am prepping my skin for the events I’m attending as a guest. My skin is touchably soft without being oily or greasy (A good test is if you can’t stop touching your skin) and my lips are fully hydrated and ready to be kissed. With the help of NIVEA, I and going to give one lucky reader to have this same feeling.

One lucky winner, whether you’re a bride or groom-to-be, bridemaid or best man or just a guest, will win a package of all the above five NIVEA Skincare products. To enter this giveaway, you must:

1. Leave a comment on this post – What do/did you do to prep for a wedding? Whether you’re a  
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NO PURCHASE NECESSARY. Void where prohibited. Must be legal U.S. resident, 18 yrs or older to enter. Sweepstakes to commence on May 9th, 2012 at 12:00:00 a.m. Eastern Time (“ET”) and end on May 16th, 2012 at 11:59:59 p.m. ET. My Life on and off the Guest List will determine (1) ONE winner by random drawing from all eligible entries. Limit one prize per household. Odds of winning are dependent on the total number of eligible entries. Approx estimated retail value of prize approx. $30.00. Winner will be notified by email. Offer valid while supplies last. Giveaway sponsored by My Life on and off the Guest List; Prize provided by NIVEA Skincare. The giveaway is open to US Residents only.


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Prince William & Kate Middleton’s Wedding Special on QVC enters wedding season with the launch of The Wedding Boutique on Friday, April 1st. The launch of The Wedding Boutique on begins the official countdown to A Royal Affair, QVC’s special broadcast of officially-licensed royal collectibles from 10am – 3pm EST on Kate and William’s actual wedding day, April 29th, 2011.

This one-stop-shop for everyone’s wedding needs features designer beauty products and jewelry fit for a bride to classic wedding and shower gifts making QVC a wedding resource unlike any other! To experience The Wedding Boutique, please visit Brides and wedding go-ers alike will be one click away from fabulous finds for the “big day.”


The Limited will launch a Wedding & Event Collection on June 3, 2010, just in time for wedding season. The Limited is offering two wedding dress styles that are effortless, yet emanate romance and elegance. The two event/bridesmaid dresses are seasonless and will be staples in any woman’s wardrobe. This collection will be available for purchase online and the two event/bridesmaid dresses can also be found in The Limited Stores nationwide

In an oversaturated market, it is refreshing to find exquisite dresses such as these at a conservative price. Made from pure silk and cotton, these silhouettes will flatter any bride. Each wedding dress is available for $298.

The Romantic Wedding Dress is flowy and feminine without being fussy. It can easily translate to fit various wedding types; from a casual beach wedding or in a lavish ceremony. This eye-catching classic off-white dress will satisfy even the most discerning bride. Its silk chiffon cascading vertical ruffles allow for movement and airy flow.

The Elegant Wedding Dress stays true to its name with fresh finishes. With a classic silhouette and trendy touches, this ivory colored dress is perfect for any modern bride-to-be. A hidden pocket and smart belt is an instant update to this distinguished style. Though modern, the silky cotton material is the perfect combination; you will feel like you are floating on clouds while walking down the aisle.

A wedding would not be complete without a wedding party. The Limited is offering two select styles of event dresses ideal for any bridesmaid. These dresses can be found online as well as in The Limited stores nationwide. The Ruffle Front Halter Dress is fun and flirty. Available in 3 color ways: Bright Poppy, Gothic & Green Lagoon (shown). Any bridesmaid will be thrilled to wear this special dress that is not only seasonless but can truly be worn again and again. The soft materials and flattering movement is an added touch to this classic style.

The Draped Waist Tank Dress will flatter any figure and versatile for any type of bride’s taste. The length is not too long, not to short, and the sleeveless style of the top is not so bare. A deep “V” in the back polishes off the dress. With its soft color palette, yummy material and wear-again style, your bridesmaid will thank you. This dress is available in three colors: Smog Grey, Dark Periwinkle and Turquoise.